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Blogger, Editor, Writer, Podcaster, (2007-present)
5w ago
What you do is stop sleeping with his friends. YOU violated his privacy…. you betrayed him and poached one of his friends. You cannot expect him to trust you. You compromised his friendship. Are you married? How old is your son? If you slept with someone under 16……. you may have committed statutory rape….. and could be prosecuted.
WOW… .. my words for you are undiscribeable.
you need to seek counseling for yourself.
you need to get your son into therapy because you screwed up big time
stop sleeping with his friend..
Your actions are predatory and could be labeled much worse.
Tommy DeStefano
works at Loan Value Group
3w ago
Since you already slept with his friend i’'ll skip the whole “you shouldn't have slept with his friend” part. You seem to be leaving out a ton of details that would help clarify the situation as well like age, relationship with said friend, where this took place, and if you're still married to his father. My advice to you would be to shop a different section of your natural market for your next lover. As for repairing the relationship with your son just give him some time and let him be angry. All he knows right now is his mother's an easy hit and he's questioning all his relationships with his circle of friends. And you did that.. so assure him your booty is now off limits to his buddies and be ready to take a tounge lashing… from him this time.. not his buddy
Jan Mare
former Entrepreneur, Semi Retired,
5w ago
I'm not sure you're capable of fixing this. It's not a minor lapse in judgement. Unless you were drunk or drugging, which is even worse. Is the other boy of age? If not, your son isn't the only victim. And you have no idea what his parents will do when this comes out.
Your son has lost respect for you. His friend has a filthy joke he can toss around, and at some point will. You've ruined his school life. He's going to be the butt of every 'I did your mamma' response.
You're not capable of good parenting right now. If nothing else, recognize that it's time to let go if there are any better options for him. If you're divorced, and I'm certain you are, it's time to call your ex. Unless you can move to a school district far from this one? If your ex can take his son and the school is a new one, that's what's best for him. If there is a grandmother, that could also be a better option.
No mom out here is without some sort of regret or imperfection. Usually there is a way to fix things, but, this has to be about him now.
Someday…who knows.
Chrystal Hays
Host at Dog Vacay (2012-present)
5w ago
Well, maybe turn yourself in to the police, depending on his age?
But seriously, you should examine why you did that, maybe with a professional, so you can apologize properly.
I don’t know if you are a mother or a father, or the gender of the friend. There are many ways this can be a disaster. Many reasons why the friend may have complied, and why your son is furious, hurt, etc.
You crossed a line, and you humiliated him.
You humiliated yourself, too, which is not that healthy.
He may not have the communication tools he needs to express how he feels, or he may be afraid he will hurt you physically or say really horrible things if you talk right now.
Bear the silence while you work on this. You may not like it, but you earned it.
Andy Pollard
5w ago
While the others here are excoriating you for having done something so horrible, I would encourage you to seek counselling. If for any reason it seems as if you have a deep, unseated need that this is symptomatic of. Please, do look into it. For both you and your son’s sake.
Akiko Hara
Middle Schooler that knows too much
5w ago
You screwed him over, you deserve to have him not talk to you. But if you really want to maybe get back into is life, try recommending family or just parent/child therapy. You betrayed him, so he will almost definitely hate you for a while, whether he shows it or not. Another key: Never sleep with any of his friends ever again. Another key thing is to not FORCE him to talk to you. He will most likely hate you more for that. Try to show him you have “changed” and you better keep your word from that day until you die. He probably trusted you so much, so now you have to work your ass off to gain that trust back. Have fun
Vaughan Granier
BA.LLB Law, University of KwaZulu-Natal (1989)
5w ago
Firstly, accept that you completely and utterly screwed up. You put a meaningless bonk above your relationship with your son. Accept that you utterly blew your priorities and you have hurt not only your sons relationship with you, but his relationship with his friend.
Then say sorry and mean it.
Then realise he will forgive you but not straight away.
Then get down to it and earn his forgiveness.
When he forgives you, be grateful. No matter how long he takes.
The end.
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